K. took this picture of me being a dork and messing with my hair on St Patrick's Day.
So, tonight I met my friend J. out. We were going to go to the Java House, but when I got off work, I had to pick Stinky up from track and drive three of her friends home and then I went running and then I took the girls to their dad's house, and then it was seven and I hadn't eaten yet. J. got off work late and missed dinner so he was up for going to Pizza on Dubuque. And because we were in the neighborhood, we decided to go downstairs to the Dublin for a beer instead of going for coffee. Oops.
Since we hadn't seen each other in a year, we had a lot of catching up to do. J. has always been really good at girl talk and we've known each other for over ten years, so he knows all my shit. I had some hilariously funny dating stories to tell him. He seemed a little envious, but I told him, the whole "being single and dating" thing can be fun, but it is a pretty shallow existence. He's been with the same woman for over a year now and I was a little envious of that.
J. is ten years younger than me and we talked about relationships at different ages. He said he couldn't wait to be in his forties when there wouldn't be so much pressure from women his age to get married and have babies. I hadn't really thought about that before. I've already done all that, so I have little desire to get married or procreate. It's probably the reason I don't feel that pressure to be in a serious relationship as soon as possible either. Yes, I'd love to meet someone I'm compatible with, but my clock's done ticked itself out for the most part, so it's not like I have any kind of time pressure as to when I have to find that guy. Of course, being single and dating at any age can be by turns both great fun and an annoying pain in the ass.
And true to our domestic states, J. left earlier to go see his girlfriend, and I stayed another hour to shoot the shit with my friend Rory and his fiance, E. and my friend Libby and her husband R. and it was so great, I didn't even notice any down side this time.