So, do I look like someone's psycho ex-girlfriend? Wait. Don't answer that.
Okay, I know I've written a lot about my first boyfriend on here. It's not like I'm not over him or still pining or anything. It's more that he's probably the only healthy'ish relationship I've ever been in and most of my other relationships have been way more depressing to write about. I'm definitely not saying he was perfect, but he was a really good guy, and he put up with all my bullshit (and there was a lot) and even when he was grouchy, he didn't try to tear me down or take it out on me, and those are huge things. Mostly, we went through a lot of crap together from the time we were 19 until we broke-up at 22. Having said that, I would love to know what happened to him and my two best women friends from that time.
Before I went to California, I tried to google all of them, but to no avail. Many of my kind readers suggested I check Facebook, but since I didn't have one at the time, I didn't really get how it worked. Once I did figure it out, I tried, and still didn't find any of the three. I did, however, find Neal's brother on Facebook. Of course, it was the brother I never met while we were dating. He was going to college on the East Coast and our paths never crossed.
I thought about sending him a message, but it felt weird. What would I say? What if Neal thought of me as his psycho ex-girlfriend? Or what if he was married or in a relationship? I certainly wouldn't want anyone in his family to think I was stirring up shit. I hope he is happy in a healthy relationship. So, I left it.
Then, when I was going through some old photos recently, I found a few of Neal's childhood and high school pics that had gotten mixed in with mine. If it were me, I would want those back. It was also the perfect way to contact Neal's brother, hopefully without sounding like a scary stalker lady.
So, last night right before I went to bed, I sent him this:
We've never met, but I used to date your brother Neal for a couple of years in the mid-eighties.
After we lost contact, I discovered I had a few of his high school and childhood photos mixed in with mine.
If you think he'd like them, feel free to send me a post office box or address and I'd be happy to send them back his way.
And when I got to work this morning, I found this in my inbox:
Thanks Churlita. Neal will be very pleased to hear from you. I'll forward his mailing address soon. I hope all is well w/ you -Neal's brother.
Which I thought was really nice. Who knows if I'll ever hear any more. I'm sure his brother will have to talk to him to see if he thinks of me as his psycho ex or not and wants to give me an address or contact me. I guess we'll see and I'll definitely let you know if I hear from him. Whatever happens, I hope he's happy doing whatever it is he wants to do. It's what I want for all of my best friends - past and present.