Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Cause I Never Want to Make You Change for Me

I know it's been a while, so I thought I'd put up another of Stinky's self-portraits tonight.

Tonight I went to the girls' choir concert. The nice thing about them going to the same school, is that they're both in the same concert, so I won't have to go to another one next week too. The girls did very well. Coadster has All-State auditions this Saturday, so she's a little nervous. She made it as a Sophomore last year, and I think she's feeling more pressure this year. I told her it's just five minutes of her life, and not to stress out about it. I'm sure that's easier said than done. There's a home football game on Friday and I keep reminding her she's not allowed to scream during it. It should be pretty tough for her, she's one of those people who can't watch sports without yelling at someone or something. Just be glad you weren't here when the Cubs were in the playoffs.

I'm also using up some Fall foliage shots. Here's one of a sculpture on the Ped Mall.

The concert was very sweet. They did something new this year. They had the special ed kids perform. I thought it was awesome. They worked really hard and some were very low functioning, so they had plenty of people assisting and the kids seemed to have a lot of fun. We gave them a standing ovation and they definitely deserved it.

This one is of McBride Hall.

The executive story editor of True Blood, my sexy vampire show was sitting two rows ahead of me. It took almost everything I had not to go up to him and start grilling him about the show. Was Sam a werewolf? Who was doing all the killing? Is Bill really dead? Yeah, I know. I seriously need a life.

Here is a very yellow tree in front of the business building.

I was exhausted after work, so I took a little nap before the concert. I basically rolled out of bed, left my lounge pants on, did absolutely nothing with my hair and wore my big long coat to try to hide it all. I figured, I was going to a high school function, what difference would it make? Of course, five minutes after I sat down, this super hot guy asked me if the seat next to was taken. At first I thought, that's why I need to take a little more time getting ready. I remember one of the temps in my office saying that she never left her house without make-up and her hair done, because her mother told her that she never knew when she'd meet the love of her life. But then I decided that I'm pretty sure whatever guy was going to choose me to be the love of his life, wouldn't want a Barbie Doll, and didn't worry about it.

I noticed one of the big signs that the guy I was dating this Winter and I weren't well matched, when I woke-up early on a Saturday to take Stinky to basketball practice. I threw on whatever was warm and handy. When I got back, the guy was sitting at my kitchen table. He looked me up and down and asked, "So, do you think that looks good?"

I hadn't had any caffeine yet and I was more than a little taken aback and I said, "What? Oh. No. Not really, but I don't care because I was just jumping in and out of the car. It's not like I'm going to wear this out on the town or anything..."

He said, "Good," and seemed relieved, but I was pretty annoyed. I definitely wear dressier stuff and put on make-up and wear my "goin' out hair" (as Mr. B puts it) when the situation calls for it, but I'm just as happy wearing a Carhartt sweatshirt and jeans and going fishing or hiking or cutting wood, or whatever. I've had it the other way too, where guys I dated gave me shit about wearing make-up and being girly. I guess, whoever may become the love of my life, will be a guy who'll be okay with the fact that I like to mix things up.


Remiman said...

Causual chic! I'm into that.
That's one of the things that annoys me about daytime soap-operas: like give me a break with the emmy award dressing for daily living!

NoRegrets said...

Oh my, I would have been in his face, perhaps sticking stinky underarms in his face. Or done the whole 'you kiss your mother with a mouth like that?' DEFINITELY a sign.

And great that the special ed kids performed. Great great.

Minyo said...

testing... I've typed a comment 2 times and this is my third attempt. blogger is being weird!!

Best Wishes to Coadster on Saturday!

I love casual dress... only dressing up when necessary. I say wear what you feel comfortable in and those who matter, won't mind.

DJSassafrass said...

I have found it is best to date a huge dork, that way you are certain to have a lot in common!

Not Fainthearted said...

Your last statement is absolutely true. If they can't love you for all the mixed up crazy you are, then f 'em! NEXT

Cricket said...

Yeah, don't critique the tatters. He knew you could dress up, too.

laura b. said...

It helps to have the kids in the same school most of the time. For three years of Elementary and one year of High School, my three oldest boys were together. Made things like Back to School Night and Open House a bit wacky.

And keep on mixing it up! Anyone who doesn't appreciate that is soooo unworthy.

Churlita said...


See? You know what I'm talking about. I bet your wife really appreciates you.


I was too half-asleep to give him shit.It was just one of those "hmmmm" moments where you realize that you just might not be all that well suited for each other.


Exactly. If I tried to dress-up when I thought I was going to meet a guy, it would be false advertising.


If I could find me a great dorky guy, I would be all over him.


I know. It's just hard to find the guy who's going to do that.


Exactly. We'd been dating for a while by that point, and I'd never gone out all scruffy before. And even if I had, so what.

Poptart said...

Ugh. I hate guys.

NOT REALLY, but I'm glad you are not with him anymore. It's little things like that that can tell us we are way better off without 'em.

I am crossing my fingers for Coadster!!

Mrs. Hairy Woman said...

No guy should be allowed to say those words ever.. You go and do what you feel right in..

Thats nice all the kids got to participate..

Tara said...

I really like the look of that sculpture at Ped Mall! Very simple and chic.

What is the all state thing that Coadster is trying out for? Is that choir or sports or something totally different? I wish you the best of luck!

Churlita said...


I know. I'd get bored if the guy I dated didn't mix it up.


I'm a million times happier than I was when I was dating him. Sure, we had fun for a while, but that played out pretty quickly.


Especially since it wasn't like he was dressed up for me all the time. Why is that my job?


All-State is a music competition. She is auditioning for the choir. If she gets in, they have this huge performance in November and it's pretty prestigious and could mean scholarship money. So, to her, it's a big deal.

booda baby said...

Oh no. What kind of person thinks it's okay to be the fashion police? Fair enough if you invite their opinion and, actually, fair enough if they HAVE one, but to trot it out? Pleease.