Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Now I Find I've Changed My Mind and Opened Up the Doors

Here is Coadster wearing her uncle's Marines hat at her Veteran's Day Choir Concert.

The girls had their Veteran's Day Concert tonight. It was really nice, if not a little long, but it was a great tribute to all the local veterans. They had slides and read letters from some local guys who are in Iraq right now and showed a clip from Band of Brothers. I know I sing the praises of that show a lot, but that's because it's awesome. If you haven't seen it yet, you should. Sooo, here's me giving thanks to all the veterans and the current troops and then here's me hoping for a future where we don't need soldiers anymore.

And now for something completely different....

After my post yesterday about having trouble asking for and accepting help from friends, I got a Facebook message. I don't think she'll mind if I share it, especially since no one here knows who this is and it's hilarious and brilliant, so the whole world should read it. Here it is:

So, I just read your churlish figure bit about accepting help. Here is my pitch to you:

I have that jeep car, and J. has a dollie (?) rollie thing that i can borrow. I am only moderately helpful with moves because i am sort of lazy. But i am good at packing and sorting.
Also, I really like you. And the only way I know how to express things like that is by making people soup or helping them do things they need help with. Otherwise I'm left with stalking you at your favorite bar and staring at you from behind potted palms. Also, I want to. It would hurt my feelings if I found out you moved and didn't take me up on offers to help. HOW'S THAT FOR SOME EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL?

after offering you boxes last month, i remembered that i recycled all my boxes in july! I have two left full of packing material for glassware if you haven't packed dishes or fragile stuff yet. Boxes come pre-designated "fragile" to save you valuable packing minutes.

And here is my reply to her:

I will accept your help and your fragile boxes (dirty). I close on Thursday and am hoping to move that afternoon and evening. And Friday too if I don't get it done on Thursday. If you can help for any of that time, It would be great. Let me know.

I'm trying hard not to spaz about not finding a renter. I had no idea it would be so hard (dirty again).

Thank you so much. there. how was that for trying to accept help graciously...


Yeah. There's no way in hell I COULDN'T accept her offer for help, was there?

10 comments:

Remiman said...

Churlita,
I'll be there in spirit to give you a lift.
rel

Tara said...

What a great friend!

I love the idea of that Veterans Day concert. It would've made me cry, but it's a brilliant idea.

Pamela said...

Nope, no way you could refuse. And that's the way you deal with people like you. I have several friends like that. ;-)

Pamela said...

Helps to grow up Catholic and know how to dish out guilt...

Susan said...

You'd be stuck in a guilt bomb. I think you made the right decision.

Ananda girl said...

Hahaha... I love that offer of help. Perfectly executed. Glad you accepted.

Coadster looks so grown up after seeing all the Halloween kid shots!

I love Band of Brothers.

booda baby said...

Oh, no way am I falling for that. No points for you - your friend just about whacked you over the head! We'll (me and myself) consider it progress when you can ask for the help. Easily. (And then, when I see you can do it, maybe I'll give it a shot, too. :):))

And I'm not lying when I report my word verification: derail.

laura b. said...

Now THAT is an awesome friend :-)

MrManuel said...

That is one interesting way of saying I will help you!

Churlita said...

Rel,

Thanks for the spirits...You did say you were bringing spirits, didn't you? No? Too bad. Ha ha.

Tara,

She's awesome. I really the luckiest person in the world when it comes to great friends.

That concert teared me up a few times. It was very emotional and well done.

Pamela,

I know. And how annoying is it of me to make people have to go to those lengths to help me? It's ridiculous. I really am trying to be better.

Susan,

Guilt bombs sound really unpleasant. I'm glad I accepted her offer.

Ananda,

She's almost a legal adult. Eek!

Band of Brothers rocks.

Booda BAby,

I know. She gave me no choice. She's so great. Next time I'll try harder not to make people go to those lengths.

LauraB.,

Isn't she, though?

MrManuel,

She gets HUGE points for creativity.