Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Eliminate the Need for Water, Replace It With a Safe Shell

Here is the underbelly of a railroad bridge.

I have three things tonight. I'm just going to go ahead and number them to make it easier for all of us.

1.) The married women in my office never seem to get tired of asking me the same question over and over. I haven't figured out yet if it's because they're smug in the fact that they're happily married and can get laid any time they want; or if they're unhappily married and want to think that as a single girl, I'm hooking-up with hot young studs who are decidedly NOT sitting on my couch in their underwear watching sports the next day. Today it happened again and this is how it went down:

Co-worker: Soooo, how's your love life?

Me: Uhhhh...Imaginary? How's your love life? You're married, right?

Co-worker: Oh, yeah. But the honeymoon was over for us a long time ago. Now we just....(searching for the right words)

Me: (trying to help her out) ...Complacently take each other for granted?

Co-worker: That's it exactly...And it's so much better than being out there trying to date.

Me: Oh, I'm sure. Most things are.

2.) Tonight I finally got some blessed alone time. I was all restless and itchy and I've needed to live in my own little world for weeks now. Coadster was at her dad's and Stinky went to a friend's house right after track practice to do homework and eat dinner before her youth group. I can't even begin to tell you how great it is to just have a few hours to myself...And how much I can get done when I'm not answering a barrage of questions and taxiing kids all over town. I read, did laundry, oven baked some BBQ chicken, cleaned the kitchen and FINALLY got most of the upper cupboard boxes sanded. It's not one of my favorite jobs, but I'm glad to have it done.

I'm close to being half done with Ethan Canin's America America, and I have to say, I really like it. It was kind of a tough transition from The Road, but I think anything would be. McCarthy created such a strong mood, that it took me about a week to shake it off. (not that I really wanted to, but I did need to move on) America America so far is such a great throwback to a lot of the classic American fiction I read in high school. Right now it takes place in the early 70's and a working-class high school kid gets a job working for the family who pretty much created his town. He is quickly being brought into their world of privilege, power, politics and what I can only assume (and hope) will turn into corruption. I'd like to finish it by next week, because Coadster told me I had to read Capote's In Cold Blood next, and according to her, I will LOVE it.

3.) I was tagged by The Alien to do a writing prompt. I am so sorry. I totally spaced it off. I promise I'll post it tomorrow and tag the next person.


rel said...

Marriage and alone time: too much of either can be a millstone around your neck.
And then there is "In Cold Blod." Now that's a completely different perspective!

michelle said...

Trust me, it's because they're completely jealous of your ability to be spontaneous and the fact that as a single woman, you are probably (I have no idea if this is true or not)having more (and possibly better) sex than they are!

Mrs. Hairy Woman said...

Your co-worker must be just as lonely then..

NoRegrets said...

Darn it, I just donated In Cold Blood (M had it). guess I can go to the library...

Johnny Yen said...

I suspect a number of your co-workers are in those complacent and boring marriages and seeking to live vicariously through your life.

Brando said...

...Complacently take each other for granted

LOL, they should make that part of the vows. Nice response.

In Cold Blood is amazing. Probably the greatest work of nonfiction I've ever read.

Tara said...

I love the sound of sanding, and when I'm at the craft store I like to walk down the aisle where they have unpainted boxes and stuff so that I can smell the wood. Definitely one of my all-time favorite scents.

Good job getting all of that done!

Ananda girl said...

Well, I must say that in marriage the initial newness of sex with your mate wears off, but not the memory.
Unfortunately, the things that can go wrong when dating are just as much of a let down. But we tend to forget that part once we don't have to worry about it anymore. The grass is greener on the other side.

laura b. said...

When I was attempting to date, people had a lot of questions for me. I assumed they were just genuinely curious. Now that I am in a relationship no one really wants to know how it is going, because relationships aren't as titilating, apparently :-)

I think you will like In Cold Blood. It is very compellingly written. I haven't read America America...better put it on my ever growing list!

Can't wait to see your addition to the story.

My word verification is hoandsow, which either seems very fertile or very insulting :-)

Dexter said...

"Smug Marrieds" sounds like Bridget Jones exactly... shoot em.

booda baby said...

Ha ha! Nothing like getting corruption to hurry up.

And jeeezus. What's with the reading and cooking and cleaning AND sanding? You want to give a vicariousee a little heads up that there's sweating ahead?

Churlita said...

Rel, Ha ha. I believe you're right...On all counts.

Michelle, Man, I wish that were true. Sadly, my love life really is just imaginary.

Mrs., Who knows? I hope she's happy.I hope everyone is happy.

Nor, For sure. I'm sure there are tons of copies at the library.

Johnny Yen, I just wish I could help them out a little better with that.

Brando, I think it was just assumed in the wedding vows.

Tara, Thanks. I wish I liked it better.

Ananda, I think if people are willing to work on it, a marriage can be good forever...But it does take work on both sides.

LauraB., I think you'll like America America. It's very well written.

Dexter, I've never read Bridget Jones. Maybe I should though.

Booda Baby,

Sorry. Next time I'll give you a head's up. ha ha.

another good thing said...

So glad you said that about The Road.
I had that Armageddon cloud over me for days, but comfortable- like an Eeyore thing.
have missed your blog. been bad reader lately...